Weekly Recap
Hi friends…since we last spoke
Some big things happening, had 2 mates with their own Marketing business join me in the studio space. Creating a hard-working and collaborative space, really excited to have them here.
Christmas time also! It’s important we remember that as much as physical gifts are important, that we also use the power of words by telling people we love them to make them feel special! You may save a few hundred dollars also! Plus, it’s better for the relationship in the long run.
2 Ideas from me
1. Automatic Association Fallacy: we make false attributions towards people based on one distinguishable feature.
Essentially, we love to pigeonhole people based on one characteristic. Keep in mind, this is not always done consciously but unconsciously as a way for the brain to maintain order and certainty. The problem is that it means we often generate faulty assumptions about people. Very bad! So just being aware of this fallacy can be a good thing.
When someone tells you they don’t drink alcohol. We might assume they aren’t fun and don’t enjoy a good time. When someone tells you they have no money right now, you might think they’re lazy or bad with money. If someone tells you they just got fired, you might think they’re a bad worker.
What are we forgetting? Context
Are they trying to change their life for the better? Are they undertaking several risky business projects? What were they fired for?
I know what it stems from, it’s a heuristic. A mental shortcut our brains take to save thinking. We trade off individuality for predictability. It’s a flawed energy saver.
Just be aware of this as there can be significant costs to relationships and your own character value by making assumptions on minimal evidence.
2. Proof Paradox: Proof is a byproduct of consistency but consistency is often only achieved through proof.
When we don’t have the evidence to prove that our journey is justified, it can stop us from taking further action to create the proof we need to justify the journey. Paradox.
This is why most people give up and fail. They need outcomes to push through the uncertainty but you won’t get these outcomes until you push through for a bit longer. So many of us are not willing to go through the long process of change. It’s not always comfortable, but it’s worthwhile.
So where does the proof paradox lie in your life?
Gym? Relationships? Business project? Health? Mindset?
Create the proof. I guarantee it will come.
1 Quote
“What’s the alternative?” – Louis Phillips Ep #56
I seriously love this. Speaking about my friend receiving constant judgement for his self-growth because people don’t believe in the genuineness of it, Louis proposed this simple line. What’s the alternative? Stop growing? Fuck that.
So true. Along the process of change there will always be judgement but why should that stop anyone? it can be scary but I know what’s scarier: not living the life I WANT because of other people. You won’t regret self-growth.
1% Tip
Seek experts: I have recently hired a social media coach who’s in the process of helping me personalise my brand and create a 2024 coaching platform. Teaching me skills and a process that I couldn’t figure out myself.
I believe I will grow so much quicker by investing my time into knowledgable and passionate people who can develop my weaknesses and amplify my strengths.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help from people. If they’re 2 steps ahead, they can help you. It’s only your ego saying that you will be fine to figure it out yourself. Pay them, learn from them and once you’re equipped then feel free to go your own way.
Pod Summary
#55 – Zane Shellabear Healey – Crossfit Journey – digging into the mindset of an elite athlete and the big changes he made around his lifestyle.
#56 – Louis Phillips – big brother experiences, branding, general life and mindset advice. Very good episode for young people.