Weekly Recap
Hi friends…since we last spoke
No questions sent in. No worries. Been a very good week, actually this New Year has been incredible as I’m learning how to take control of my life to a greater degree. It’s so empowering when you realise this and take yourself away from blaming external things all the time.
Slightly shorter write-up this week. I won’t lie, I don’t know how to grow a Newsletter chain and it’s slightly taking away some motivation when I believe strongly in the quality of my stuff. If you have good ideas for growth, I’d love to hear them.
2 Ideas from me
1. The problems you’re facing are the solutions you’re not embracing
Most of our problems are overcome by doing the thing we are having a problem with.
Social anxiety? Put yourself into social situations.
Scared of difficult conversations with people? Start having them.
Worried about not being fit? You know what to do.
The reason we avoid situations that scare is because our ego is trying to protect us against failure and disappointment.
But one day you will realise the only failure was not doing the thing you were scared of because one day you’ll realise there was nothing to be scared of.
Have this realisation today and not in the future. Do the thing regardless of how you’re feeling.
2. When you live life to please others, success becomes relief and dreams become unrealistic
When we live a life that is guided by the expectations of others, we are never going to truly fulfil ourselves.
Achieving the dreams that were guided by others will often result in this overwhelming feeling of relief, simply because we didn’t disappoint them
If we find out what brings us fulfilment, we can live our life to experience the joy, pride and fulfilment of our own journeys.
This idea is simple. Success should be designed to bring you fulfilment, not others.
1 Quote
“The only way to have a friend is to be one” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Discussed this in my Podcast episode. Friendship is a two-way street so make sure you’re being this friend to someone else. We often criticise people for their toxicity in friendships but act in similar ways. Be the friend you deserve to someone else and lead the way in this world.
1% Tip
Invert your bad habits streaks
When I stop doing things, I often track how many days I haven’t done it for. It creates momentum and confidence but it’s often in the form of:
“I haven’t drunk for x months”
“I haven’t done this *insert bad habit* for …”
There’s nothing wrong with counting. But instead of focussing on the bad habit you removed, focus on the good habit you’ve started.
i.e,
“I’ve eaten healthy for x days to be the person I want to be”
“I’ve implemented a night-time routine to prepare for bed” instead of “I haven’t scrolled on my phone before bed for 2 weeks to avoid ruining my sleep”
Difference?
One is a prevention focus, one is a promotion focus.
One promotes you being the person you want to be.
One aims to prevent you from failing.
Huge difference to achieving our goals. Also, the biochemistry and subconscious signalling is very different when we try to embody a better version of ourselves versus avoid being someone we don’t want to be. HUGE.
Pod Summary
#64 – How to Make New Friends – an episode breaking down the limiting beliefs that prevent us from making new friends + 3C’s of connection 3-step process to making new friends
#65 – Aaron Lee- diagnosed with heart failure at 27 and having a heart transplant at 29 – Aaron’s story is incredible and filled with perspective