Been another very great week. Ever since I have done the 10 hour silence day, my perspective on life has totally shifted in a positive way.
The Timeless Mindset website is less than a week away from launching which will be exciting.
I have had some amazing guests on recently and I’m super excited for the next few. Learning lots and loving the podcasting experience.
I will be doing my first online podcast next week with plans to begin interviewing people from around the world to learn from a range of different perspectives. Exciting times ahead. Uncertain but all part of it.
1 Learning
- You cannot feel the exact positive emotions from a future achievement like you can feel the pain from anticipating a dreadful future
Learnt this from Dr K on Chris Williamson’s podcast.
Try and visualise achieving a goal you are super driven towards like getting that promotion, losing 5kg on a diet or saving for a holiday.
Visualise that sense of accomplishment and try to let your body feel it.
What do you feel?
Joy? Happiness? Love? Gratitude?
Excitement is most likely. This is your dopaminergic system activating.
Dopamine is being released in the brain in the anticipation of a future reward, driving you to attain it.
You cannot replicate the entirety of the positive feelings without experiencing the success of achieving your goal.
Feelings like being proud of yourself and that utter joy and pride and sense of accomplishment.
However, you can literally experience and feel the pain from the future by imagining it.
The anticipation of a negative future experience activates the negative emotional circuitry in the brain.
The shame, guilt and embarrassment of future experiences can literally be felt to a very similar degree unlike these positive emotions.
This is a survival mechanism as it is more advantageous to be aware of negative stimulus to protect us. It’s an innate mechanism directing us towards safety.
The downside to this in my opinion is that:
- We can become addicted to the familiarity of our pain because the uncertainty of achieving our goals is too uncomfortable and foreign
- We do not fully appreciate and acknowledge how amazing it will feel to achieve certain things, thus acting as a barrier to action as we fixate on the negatives
- We play life safe, live to the expectations of others and never take the risks to bring us that fulfilment we are after. In settling for security, we sacrifice our hopes and dreams.
Emotions drive us. Being aware of this can allow us to have a conversation with ourselves and determine why we are scared to pursue our dreams. What’s stopping me? Can I feel it? Do I know how good it will feel chasing a life I want? Why can’t I? Is it a voice or reality?
1 Quote
“People want you to lose because it helps them justify the risks they chose not to take.”
– Alex Hormozi
Initially, the people closest to you are most supportive of your dreams.
The trend I notice across the internet is that after a certain degree of success, most of the initial people fall off the bandwagon as they cannot handle the successes of their original friends.
They are a constant reminder of the fact they chose to play it safe and not go after their dreams.
So it’s easier to bring others down than start bringing yourself up.
Their criticisms are a projection of their inability to live a life they truly love.
The solution? Level up your friends.
You can’t spend your whole existence trying to justify your decisions to someone who is incapable of understanding because they are too conceited to swallow their pride.
1 Idea
Phone time is taking away from valuable alone time, meaning we are too distracted to hear ourselves and the signals we need to listen to
Most us are so distracted with our phones, including me. Actually, we all are.
The problem is that it removes alone time which can be a key time to listen to the signals in our body
How do we feel? What’s our life looking like? Do we need to make any changes?
Often, there is clear information communicated to us via our emotions.
The problem is that this signal is so diffused by the noise presented by our phones meaning we are literally blocking ourselves from listening to our mind, body and spirit.
Phones are a great tool for connection, education and leisure.
However, too much phone time means we sacrifice connection with ourselves for the connection to our phones.
Balance is the key. Phones are amazing and incredible.
But you and I both need to find some time to put them away, listen to ourselves some more before we get burnt out or the clock runs out on life and we were too distracted to live the life we truly wanted. It will happen.
Pod Summary
#88 – Brayden Ainsworth & Brooke McIntosh – two great humans with great stories and insights from their journey – so much realness and transparency about who they are. Great episode if you want to see what honesty looks like.
#89 – Jaxon Bilchuris – amazing story of resilience – from ACL injury, having his AFL dream crushed, 972 days on the sidelines to returning only to more injuries and then taking up triathlons – 2x iron man athlete now. Such a disciplined and strong individual, lots of value for anyone wanting to grow.